Thursday, February 5, 2009


Everyone keeps asking me what I think about Nadya Suleman, a single mom, and her decision to have more children after already having six.

I sympathize with her desire to have children and the seven years it took her to have her first child, because it took me seven years to have my first child and I know the anguish and frustration that is involved. HOWEVER, I think it is totally irresponsible for her to continue having children when there is no way to properly care for them. (As far as I’m concerned, the doctor who implanted the embryos should have his license taken away. Doctors take an oath to “do no harm.” Allowing a single mom who already has six children to be implanted with six more embryos is going against that oath.)

She thinks she had a dysfunctional childhood because she was an only child who “didn’t have much control of her environment and felt powerless.” What does she think her 14 children are going to say about their childhood?

Her friend says, “people are saying negative things and they don’t know her.”
What we do know is:

She’s a single mom (she separated from her husband in 2000 and had her first baby in 2001 – so all these children were planned knowing there would be no father for them)

She has a severe back injury which was the reason she and her husband separated. She didn’t want him to be burdened by her pain and depression (but it is okay to submit infants to it).

She has no way to support her children (she has not accepted welfare – so far. She says she is going back to school in the fall to complete her Master’s Degree so she can be a counselor. So, let’s see – who then will be caring for these 14 children that she wanted so desperately? If she works, she has to pay child care for 14 children…how much will that leave for them to live on? If she doesn’t work, who will support them?) Oh wait. I forgot about all the book deals, talk shows, advertising, and movie offers that are rolling in (it doesn't hurt that she looks like Angelina Jolie...maybe Angie will star in the movie, that will bring in some big bucks).
We'll be following the octuplets story until they are all married with children of their own.

All she cares about is what SHE wants. SHE wants a big, huge family. But we don’t (and shouldn’t) always get what we want. Sometimes what we want isn’t possible or isn’t right for someone else (like, for instance, the 14 children involved – all under the age of eight – with no father and no income to support them. How about what THEY want and deserve?)

That’s my opinion. What’s yours?


nrthshore said...

This type of thing has been going on for years but not as publicly. Thousands have had children they can't afford and continued to do so. It was in their benefit. She is no different than many mothers who have children to benefit from social services.

Some time those that study sociology are the best people to know how to use the system. I don't see how any one can stop another person from having as many children as they want no matter what their living situation is. It is a freedom but it doesn't mean it is a good thing to do.

I would have had more children but I ran out of time. I would have had them because they are so much fun and continue to be so. Then, I would have made sure we could handle the situation and I wouldn't have wanted them to come all at that is a problem.

Jeri and Amy said...

See mom, the secret to getting comments is writing about controversial issues! No one is going to comment on your random tacky pictures and/or videos because there is really little to say. Open up a divisive and explosive topic, and people will comment about it.