Everyone keeps asking me what I think about Nadya Suleman, a single mom, and her decision to have more children after already having six.
I sympathize with her desire to have children and the seven years it took her to have her first child, because it took me seven years to have my first child and I know the anguish and frustration that is involved. HOWEVER, I think it is totally irresponsible for her to continue having children when there is no way to properly care for them. (As far as I’m concerned, the doctor who implanted the embryos should have his license taken away. Doctors take an oath to “do no harm.” Allowing a single mom who already has six children to be implanted with six more embryos is going against that oath.)
She thinks she had a dysfunctional childhood because she was an only child who “didn’t have much control of her environment and felt powerless.” What does she think her 14 children are going to say about their childhood?
Her friend says, “people are saying negative things and they don’t know her.”
What we do know is:
She’s a single mom (she separated from her husband in 2000 and had her first baby in 2001 – so all these children were planned knowing there would be no father for them)
She has a severe back injury which was the reason she and her husband separated. She didn’t want him to be burdened by her pain and depression (but it is okay to submit infants to it).
She has no way to support her children (she has not accepted welfare – so far. She says she is going back to school in the fall to complete her Master’s Degree so she can be a counselor. So, let’s see – who then will be caring for these 14 children that she wanted so desperately? If she works, she has to pay child care for 14 children…how much will that leave for them to live on? If she doesn’t work, who will support them?) Oh wait. I forgot about all the book deals, talk shows, advertising, and movie offers that are rolling in (it doesn't hurt that she looks like Angelina Jolie...maybe Angie will star in the movie, that will bring in some big bucks).
I sympathize with her desire to have children and the seven years it took her to have her first child, because it took me seven years to have my first child and I know the anguish and frustration that is involved. HOWEVER, I think it is totally irresponsible for her to continue having children when there is no way to properly care for them. (As far as I’m concerned, the doctor who implanted the embryos should have his license taken away. Doctors take an oath to “do no harm.” Allowing a single mom who already has six children to be implanted with six more embryos is going against that oath.)
She thinks she had a dysfunctional childhood because she was an only child who “didn’t have much control of her environment and felt powerless.” What does she think her 14 children are going to say about their childhood?
Her friend says, “people are saying negative things and they don’t know her.”
What we do know is:
She’s a single mom (she separated from her husband in 2000 and had her first baby in 2001 – so all these children were planned knowing there would be no father for them)
She has a severe back injury which was the reason she and her husband separated. She didn’t want him to be burdened by her pain and depression (but it is okay to submit infants to it).
She has no way to support her children (she has not accepted welfare – so far. She says she is going back to school in the fall to complete her Master’s Degree so she can be a counselor. So, let’s see – who then will be caring for these 14 children that she wanted so desperately? If she works, she has to pay child care for 14 children…how much will that leave for them to live on? If she doesn’t work, who will support them?) Oh wait. I forgot about all the book deals, talk shows, advertising, and movie offers that are rolling in (it doesn't hurt that she looks like Angelina Jolie...maybe Angie will star in the movie, that will bring in some big bucks).
We'll be following the octuplets story until they are all married with children of their own.All she cares about is what SHE wants. SHE wants a big, huge family. But we don’t (and shouldn’t) always get what we want. Sometimes what we want isn’t possible or isn’t right for someone else (like, for instance, the 14 children involved – all under the age of eight – with no father and no income to support them. How about what THEY want and deserve?)
That’s my opinion. What’s yours?
